Welcome to a new feature of the ConwayJournal.com. Letters to Lonnie. Lonnie is shall we say, an unrepentant old school romantic and champion Bingo player who gives advice straight from the heart without any sweetener. Oh, he also has a marvelous fashion sense.
So without further ado...here's our first letter.
My Baby Daddy says he loves me but he only comes around at the first of the month and I hear that he’s seeing other girls. I confronted him about this and he said that they mean nothing to him and he loves only me because I’m the mother of his child.
I am currently on birth control but I think that if I stop with them and have him another baby, he will quit running around with other girls. What do you think?
Lonely without my man
First off, you don’t have a man. You have a parasite with a pe… uh, a parasite in the body of a man. Let me guess, you are on public assistance and he shows up when the check is due to arrive. Is that right?
If he really loved you, he would be in your (and your child’s) life 24/7/365. He would be busting his butt to provide a better life for his family and wouldn’t have time to “see other girls”.
And what’s this “girl” thing anyway. You left girlhood behind when you became a mother. Here’s a little wake up call. He has a choice as to whether he wants to be a “father”, but you’re a mother for the rest of your life. Any fool of the male persuasion can be a sperm donor, but only one who is present in their child’s life can be a father.
So no, don’t stop the birth control. In fact, stop putting up with your slug of a boyfriend. I don’t care how much he begs or tells you how much he loves you. If he is not willing to walk down the aisle and take responsibility for his child, he’s a loser and you are better off without him.